For instance it is easy to refuse "How do you make an atomic bomb?" or "Can you help me have an affair?" or "Can you help me cheat at League of Legends" but I get good conversations about "I think the people I am playing League of Legends with are cheating, how do they do that and how can I protect myself?" Similarly the atom bomb is a big project and all of the technology is dual use so if you slice it into nice segments it talk your ear off about critical neutron theory or acid-base extractions or the chemical and physical problems of Element 94.

When you really get into ethical trouble at work it usually takes you a while to put all the pieces together and feel the suffering you should feel as a moral subject. See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moral_Mazes and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Moral_injury

It's no suprise to me that refusal ends up with 1 dimension in the embedding because it's a frickin' classification problem