One of the maintainers (Catalin Marinas) made [0] a much more important point: Apple makes no promises about how their "TSO" bits work now or will work in the future. This mode was designed for Rosetta2, not the general public. It is not documented formally. Someone saying "it is TSO" is not documentation. A formal definition of a memory model is usually a very long document describing a lot of corner cases, for example [1] is a SUMMARY of the ARMv8 memory model, it is 31 pages long. It is a summary! The full spec makes up chapters D7 and D8 in [2], totaling 243 pages. Even there, there are corners that it does not touch on and people get wrong. Without such a spec for Apple's TSO mode, how can anyone rely on how it might or might not work?
Additionally, you might find silicon bugs if you do something in this mode that Rosetta2 doesn't or didn't. Consider that the only first-party user of this mode was Rosetta2. Anything it does not do that you do might find a bug.
The stated linux kernel policy of "do not break user space" is impossible to deliver on, if built on an undocumented hardware feature that might change at any time and was never fully publicly specified. The maintainers are right to reject this.
[0] https://lwn.net/ml/linux-kernel/ZiKyWGKTw6Aqntod@arm.com/
[1] https://developer.arm.com/-/media/Arm%20Developer%20Communit...
[2] https://documentation-service.arm.com/static/6943ef0c7982093...