> Adults make a lot more sense when you realise they're just children in big bodies.

That one, I absolutely agree with.

I'm 55. I would have a hard time limiting myself to 55 things I wish I knew when I was 34. When I'm 105, I still will have too many for now. :)

I'm not sure I like the framing of this

The funny thing I find about criticism is that you actually don’t have a choice about whether or not it affects your future actions. Criticism that I have dismissed has persistently come back to haunt me, perhaps via my subconscious.

- The lazy person works twice as hard. Often I found you can save a lot of time just trying to the minimal possible and gain a lot of insights of why something is minimal vs not

-The opinion of the person who rarely offers it is listened to more closely. I found the opposite to be true, those who don't offer their thoughts frequently are often dismissed when they do want to share something

Anyway, many of the points are great.. I would also add to keep a journal and write down what was meaningful throughout the day.. you will find time passing by with more quality since you know what the take and what to avoid

> Some people are profoundly broken – usually from life's harsh trials. Give yourself permission to remove them from your orbit. Their healing requires years of professional help, more than well-meaning friends and family can achieve.

If you give up on those people and cut them out, you're pretty much condemning them to continuing being broken.

This conflicts with the earlier advice of trying to be kind.

Don't let them control you but don't cut them out. Give them some of your time and some kindness. You never know how much time a "profoundly broken" person has left.

I like this. I’ll take it a step further:

curiosity plus follow-through is a superpower. Lots of people I know are curious… they just never really follow through on it, so they end up average, wasting that superpower. They’re curious in their head, but it stays in their head.

I’m thinking about curiosity in a work sense (“could I build a better widget?”) and in a personal interest sense (“I wonder if taking a dance class / volunteering at a soup kitchen would be fulfilling”).

I’ve learned that the people who tend to excel are the ones who follow that curiosity to completion for something.

What the ...

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xfq_A8nXMsQ

https://youtu.be/sycgL3Qg_Ak?si=aDnxo-S6eYXJVheC&t=190

Don’t listen to other people’s advice. Nobody knows what the hell they’re doing.

Just do your own thing.

Suuuuure

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Many_a_true_word_is_spoken_in_...

Carnivorous animals, are they immoral?

This was a revelation to me in my early-thirties.

This happened when I was 20. I don't know what else to say other than, it fucking sucks.

This happened to me at age 40, when a 24yo advised me that some thing I owned, wore, or said made me look uncool. "The difference between 40 and 24 is that you care what looks uncool to 24yos."

24. One day your parents' names will be spoken more often in memories than in conversations. Every word shared with them now is a gift. Don't wait. Create a recurring calendar entry for coffee with your Dad. Visit your Mum every Friday. Force it. Squeeze it in. It will become one of your biggest regrets if you don't.

I'm happy it is a good lesson for you, but do not claim this is one-size-fits-all advice. Some of us have abusive, ugly parents, and are plenty tired of being lectured about how "you're going to regret not making amends with them!" No I fucking won't. Again - good for you, and I'm not saying you said this applied to me.

lol

It really seems quite difficult for straight men to succeed at this.