There are entities that provide services that are nice, which actually value your privacy, are possibly non profit, based on free software.

Of course it's rarely gratis, sometimes it's less smooth, but hey, at least you avoid the villains.

See for instance https://www.chatons.org/

Or you could self host (of course that costs time and you need to have a strong backup strategy... but on the other hand you should also backup what you host at the gafam, you never know when they decide to lock you out for some reason).

It's kinda sad to flee from one gafam just to trap yourself in another one. However, congrats for your successful degoogling!

Meet the new boss, the same as the old one. If you actually want to make a change, consider GNU/Linux on desktop and phones.

Haven't made it all the way, but I was able to find a way to downgrade my Google One back to the $2/m for extra storage. YouTube will remain to avoid ads. Everything else has been switched or is being worked on, but after 20 years it takes longer than I imagined. I'm giving up tap to pay and headed towards GrapheneOS instead of Apple, where your going to get Gemini a la Siri. OpenCode Go, Fireworks, and OEM Spark for my llms. Still looking for my cloud provide, leaning towards digital ocean.